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I have been through many trails and tests in my life but I can think of two specific situations that have been extremely painful. In both situations God taught me some huge lessons and changed my heart, mind and actions, which as a result transformed my life. I find that God often does this, He puts me in situations which at the time I have no idea why they have to happen but then further down the line He shows me that these difficult things have to take place for change to happen to allow the will of God to unfold; James 1:2-3 ‘Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance’. I also find that the difficult situations I am faced with are usually about me having to look at myself and to focus on me rather than someone or something else.
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All relationships in our lives whether family, friendship, marriage, professional etc will go through difficult times, and it is inevitable that one person if not both will get upset, hurt or offended at some point. At these times it is easy to blame the other person, yet God tells us in Matthew 7:3-5 ‘Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye’. I think it is fair to say that at some point, myself included, that we have all been guilty of this. How is it that we find it so easy to look at ourselves in the mirror each day and check our physical (external) appearance before we leave our house? Even when we’re running late we will still have a quick peek before we go out! Why then do we not find time to look in our own ‘internal mirror’ and examine our inner being, because this is what is truly important. The bible tells us that God looks at our heart, not at our hair or clothes! Proverbs 21:2 ‘A person may think their own ways are right, but the LORD weighs the heart’.
The popular Michael Jackson song, ‘the man in the mirror’ although not a Christian worship song has such a poignant meaning as it says: ‘I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways and no message could have been any clearer. If you want to make the world a better place Take a look at yourself, and then make a change’. Wow, to actually absorb and apply those words would not only transform our relationships, and our whole life, but also us! Although these specific words may not be found in the bible God provides us with His own words, praise God; 2 Corinthians 13 ‘Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test? These words confirm many of the fundamental teachings of Jesus because love, kindness, forgiveness, goodness and gentleness are mentioned throughout the bible. The power we have to transform our lives by looking at the ‘man in the mirror’, rather than others is incredible. Looking at ourselves not only takes away negative feelings such as anger, judgment, hurt, resentment which the word tells us are all ‘acts of the flesh’ as detailed in Galatians 5:19-21, but it also replaces them with feelings of peace, love, joy and forgiveness and allows us to experience the fruits of the spirit as detailed above in Galatians 5:22-23.
Ultimately forgiveness is not about accepting that someone who hurts us is right, it is having faith that God is in control and He will do what is right. So, in all situations we can only be responsible for ourselves, we should ‘let it go’ and look at/work on our part and hand over the situation in faith, to God; Hebrews 10:30 ‘For we know him who said, It is mine to avenge; I will reply, and again, The Lord will judge his people’. So let God deal with your circumstance, trust it to him and always start with the ‘man in the (internal) mirror.’ Don’t waste any time feeling hurt and offended, instead be full of joy and happiness as you turn into the person God has creating you to be.
Author: Joleana O’Neill
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